Some Do's and Don'ts for Giving a Best Man Speech

Giving a best man speech can be nerve wracking for even the most confident and relaxed man. Most men take their best man duties very seriously as it is an honor bestowed on a person by the groom who feels that the person of his choosing can do the job better then anyone else.

There are some simple hints, which are for all intents and purposes, very commonsensical in nature, regarding the conduct of a best man in making his speech for the newlyweds at the reception. The best man should take certain key points into account when writing and giving the speech, and with these things in mind, the speech can be memorable. Making the speech balanced and positive is very important and there is nothing wrong with throwing a little bit of humor into the mix, in fact it is encouraged, but keep in mind you do not want to go overboard in any direction. This is not a stand up routine, but rather a wedding reception.

Giving a speech that is dry, tired, negative, cliché, boring or offensive is not recommended in any size, shape or form. Be interesting, be original and keep your audience in mind with every statement you make. Brevity is also something to strive for, as most people's attention spans at these types of events are very short. Bearing these points in mind, how then should a best man's speech proceed? Let's take a look.

Watch your unguarded comments about the bride, the groom and all family members from both sides. Be careful not to hurt anyone's feelings, reveal truths that are better left hidden, and whatever you do, never offend anyone in the room. During your speech do not poke fun at anyone's expense such as bringing up any physical or mental infirmities whatsoever. As well do not comment on, for example, the bride's father's fiery Irish temper or the groom's uncle's terrible driving or parking habits. Instead focus on the positive and focus on the focal point of the day- the bride and groom.

On the positive side, do not be afraid to be innovative and stylishly original. Think wise and witty and strive to entertain and get smiles and laughter out of everyone in attendance. If there is a cute or funny story from the day that you wish to let everyone in on, then by all means go right ahead and recount it. Stories that can appeal to, and be understood by everyone in the room are always the best kind to choose for wedding receptions. Keep in mind the varied age groups of those assembled. Most receptions have a mix of children, teenagers, adults and seniors in attendance. This is a joyous family affair so keep that in mind at all times. Also keep everything you say in the best of taste. Tell a quirky, humorous story but nothing that will serve to embarrass or humiliate anyone- not parents, grandparents, friends, or the newlyweds. 

A trend that is gaining in popularity for weddings and receptions is to have two people share the duties of the best man, and this takes into account the best man speech. Some men do not feel comfortable giving speeches while others are simply not up to the task because they cannot write a speech nor can they give a speech that will captivate the audience. In other cases, a groom may have two brothers or two close friends and he does not want to choose between them so he opts for a best man team instead of a one-man show.